Nobody is blessed or born with self-confidence. It’s easy to look at people like Beyoncé, or whoever you believe radiates confidence, only to feel insecure and inadequate in comparison.
Beyoncé (as well as everybody else) had to build the confidence muscle and exercise it relentlessly to be as confident as she is.
So you’re not helping yourself by comparing. You’re just getting in your own way.
There are three ways to build your self-confidence. Give these a try, and comparison will be the last thing on your mind.
1. Practice, Practice and Practice Some More
“My father taught me that the only way you can make good at anything is to practice, and then practice some more. – Pete Rose
Think of an actor on set for a film. For example — Tom Cruise.
When he’s on set just imagine how many times he must practice his pitch, script, role, lines, stunts, scenes and so on.
Do you think he’d be such a successful actor without relentlessly practicing and honing his craft? No way.
And that’s the same way you need to look at self-confidence. Look at confidence as a skill and a muscle because it really is.
If you’re not confident on camera then practice relentlessly. If you’re not confident at writing, write as many blog posts, stories, books and articles as you can.
If you’re not confident talking to new people, make the effort to talk to new people often. Practice is the key to building self-confidence, and you’ve got to do it non-stop.
2. Acknowledge Your Accomplishments
“By taking the time to stop and appreciate who you are and what you’ve achieved — and perhaps learned through a few mistakes, stumbles and losses — you actually can enhance everything about you. Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments.” – Jack Canfield
If you don’t acknowledge your accomplishments, you won’t know what you’re capable of. If you don’t know what you’re capable of, there’s nothing to be confident about.
It’s your accomplishments that make you realize what you’re capable of, and realizing what you’re capable of is what builds your self-confidence.
The size or impact of your accomplishments doesn’t matter. What matters is being aware of your accomplishments and celebrating them.
Accomplishments come in all shapes and sizes. Don’t take your accomplishments for granted — your confidence will benefit from it.
3. Ask More Often
Asking is something that’s so powerful yet so scary to do, because of our own personal What-If theories.
Push your What-If stories aside and commit to asking more often.
- Ask for help when you need it. Ask for advice on how to do something better.
- Reach out to someone in your industry, and ask for advice related to an article they’ve written.
- Ask for directions when you’re a little lost.
- Ask for assistance when you’re a little overwhelmed.
- Ask for feedback on a project you’re working on.
- Ask questions.
By asking more often you’ll build up your communication skills and will build your self-confidence as a result.
The more comfortable you feel with asking, the more confidence you’ll gain in the process. Read more…